If you have suffered a loss through the death of a loved one or through divorce, and don't feel "normal", you are probably grieving. It is important to remember that grieving is a process. We must emotionally work through each of the grief stages effectively, and we must overcome our fear of grief. It is not a sign of weakness to grieve.
Sometimes progress is like standing still but not going backwards; sometimes it is like one step forward and one step back; sometimes it is two steps forward and only one step back. Eventually you will have more steps forward than back, and finally very few setbacks in your path to becoming normal again.
You must give yourself permission to grieve for as long as necessary. It takes some people longer than others, so don't be hard on yourself if you have to grieve longer than you think you should. An old saying is, "When you get sick of tired of being sick and tired, you will do what is necessary in order to heal." When you are ready, you will do your grief work.
Sometimes progress is like standing still but not going backwards; sometimes it is like one step forward and one step back; sometimes it is two steps forward and only one step back. Eventually you will have more steps forward than back, and finally very few setbacks in your path to becoming normal again.
You must give yourself permission to grieve for as long as necessary. It takes some people longer than others, so don't be hard on yourself if you have to grieve longer than you think you should. An old saying is, "When you get sick of tired of being sick and tired, you will do what is necessary in order to heal." When you are ready, you will do your grief work.
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Last Updated: Sep 2009
Last Updated: Sep 2009
How to Deal with Grief?
You must allow yourself to feel these feelings, and accept the fact that you are normal if you are engaging in any of these behaviors and signs of grief. You need to allow yourself time to grieve because it is an important aspect in your healing.
If you feel the feelings and work through them, your grief will lessen, and in time, fade. The memories will always remain as sweet memories in the case of a death, or in the case of a divorce, very often bitter-sweet.
If you are severely depressed for too long a time, if you think about ending your life, or if you become so incapacitated that you can't function day after day, you need to seek professional help until you are better able to deal with your grief.
Seeking help is not a sign of weakness; rather, it is a sign that you want to live and move on with your life.
If you feel the feelings and work through them, your grief will lessen, and in time, fade. The memories will always remain as sweet memories in the case of a death, or in the case of a divorce, very often bitter-sweet.
If you are severely depressed for too long a time, if you think about ending your life, or if you become so incapacitated that you can't function day after day, you need to seek professional help until you are better able to deal with your grief.
Seeking help is not a sign of weakness; rather, it is a sign that you want to live and move on with your life.
